I think know that before I was ever in a "serious" relationship (and by serious I mean, you legitimately could be looking in the future- marriage, a family etc. with a certain person) I had a lot of flowery views on what it meant to have a significant other.
Before I just blog about my feelings & thoughts, you should know that I DEFINITELY do not think I am qualified to give all sorts of advise or even that I think I have all these things figured out- because I know that I do not. I am basically just talking about my own experiences up till now & what God has taught me through these things. He speaks to each person individually, and I don't really believe in generalizations about certain things. So. With all that said...let us march onward!
Alex & I have been dating for [5 months!] Which to us is awesome--even though we know it's nothing compared to a lifetime! But still, we're excited about it!
Through this relationship I feel like I have learned so much about genuinely caring for another human being in a very new way. Understanding someones heart and knowing them for who they are at that heart level, not just who others may perceive them to be. I've seen God's love for me in a new way, and understood His grace and unconditional-ness towards me while I am still working through "growing-up" and becoming a real adult!
I mean, I've had friends before who I have seen and known their hearts, clearly...but to me it's been such a different journey than just a friend. For obvious reasons, like, we are in a relationship...and we are genuinely seeking God and seeing what He has for us long-term, if He has something for us long term.
It's been so amazing though for me to see the process in our relationship of growing closer and how we have genuinely come to love each other amidst weaknesses and strengths; and still being excited about what the future could bring with that person. Ultimately knowing that God is the one who orchestrates our lives. He gives and takes away, He guides and leads us in every way. So to me it's been a journey of trusting my Heavenly Father just as much as it's been a journey of trusting Alex with my heart.
In a way, I truely feel like a relationship that is going to be successful for the long run simply needs to be based off of a few things. First, a love and devotion to God for both people, so that He is in the center of that relationship. Secondly, knowing that everyone has weaknesses. It's a choice to love through those things, and to pray for each other through those things as God brings healing to hearts. And lastly, to have fun & laugh together! :)
I think I am realizing that no matter what, there will always be valleys- and there will always be mountains. It's a choice to stick it out with someone if they are the person that God has designed you for. And, let's not jump to any conclusions, we haven't sealed the deal yet---but, I could definitely see this working out for the long run :)
Soo, those are my thoughts right now about relationships. Immature or uninformed as they might be, it's where the Lord has led me thus far, and I know that as I grow, God's plan will unfold more clearly to me...and He has got my life in His hands.
And for now, I'm very excited about the guy in my life! He seems like a keeper :)
